tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post2965872366076808254..comments2023-06-20T04:16:53.907+08:00Comments on Drunk with Caffeine: My first experience with Couch-Surfing & Tips for Solo Travellersdrunkwithcaffeinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15140783438627769124noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post-12475309155675221702017-10-02T00:56:40.459+08:002017-10-02T00:56:40.459+08:00Thank you for the comment. I guess we learn throug...Thank you for the comment. I guess we learn through our mistake and I hope my mistake can be a lesson to others. Maybe Asian girls are more reserved in a sense but I hope this will change so that they are not taken advantage of. I agree to what you said, we should educate the young girls so that they know where the boundaries lie and be safe. <br />Cheers!drunkwithcaffeinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15140783438627769124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post-26864393025543536272017-10-02T00:37:28.344+08:002017-10-02T00:37:28.344+08:00Unreal. I believe every word of it. I've been ...Unreal. I believe every word of it. I've been on CouchSurfing for quite a while and have gotten very good at reading between the lines of people's "positive" and neutral reviews. Unfortunately, people are too uncomfortable to leave a negative review for a person so we have to talk in code. I will not stay with anyone who does not have several, verifiable, ENTHUSIASTIC reviews. Just polite thank yous and summaries do not make a true positive review in my eyes. If they only talk about the house and the room and not the person and experience in a great way, that's bad vibes. And sometimes you gotta dig to find that one hidden message that tells something true and dark about a person. That is the small price we must pay for safety on CS.<br /><br />I'm so sorry this happened to you though I'm relieved it was nothing worse. I'm especially disgusted by his pathetic retaliation and backtracking afterward. Those freaking pictures? I'm glad you stood up for yourself. I want to say to these kinds of people, "you did it, now live with it!" But they get all nervous about ruining their reputation and beg people to remove the truth. I've seen it before. I'm glad you didn't back down. Thank you.<br /><br />Here's to lessons learned, your continued safety and comfort, and sharing this so others (particularly women) might learn. It's especially good that you share how the coercion works in the moment and in retrospect-- how we smile and laugh our way through our discomfort to be polite but we know we must stop that. We must teach our young children to be clear and firm with their boundaries and also to respect others without exception. Anyway, thank you for sharing. You are not wrong and never deserved that. <br /><br />Cheers from TaiwanTanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787475872114352220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post-46168000363755845012015-05-27T19:21:49.184+08:002015-05-27T19:21:49.184+08:00Great to read some surfer who is not scared about ...Great to read some surfer who is not scared about leaving a bad reference. Many girls I met on CS simply never do that, even when things worse than the ones that happened to you occur to them. I hope this bad experience will not be your last couchsurfing experience. The bad couchsurfers are just a minority, that unluckily is really active :(<br />Among tips you gave to surfers I would add: contact some of the previous guest of your host, and ask them how did they feel about them. Solo traveling is great, and doing it with couchsurfing is simply the best, when everything works well. And if you choose your host carefully everything will turn out great.<br />dariohttps://www.couchsurfing.com/users/1753365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post-58760881379407376782015-04-21T17:46:15.680+08:002015-04-21T17:46:15.680+08:00I'll try to do that. :) And that's really ...I'll try to do that. :) And that's really nice of you Alessio! I'm glad I have friends who cares and really, thank you very much for your concern! I AM really lucky, I don't want to imagine what would have happen if I met a worse host. Sigh. drunkwithcaffeinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15140783438627769124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post-68872813189338493872015-04-21T17:43:38.054+08:002015-04-21T17:43:38.054+08:00I guess it's easy to approach ppl when they tr...I guess it's easy to approach ppl when they try to seem "nice", and this has become a kind of "weapon" for these people I guess. Yeah, I think I'll stick to BnB next time I'm travelling alone. No more surprises. Thanks for the advice!drunkwithcaffeinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15140783438627769124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post-28493582852197810622015-04-21T11:42:08.945+08:002015-04-21T11:42:08.945+08:00Couchsurfing has become a place where people kind ...Couchsurfing has become a place where people kind of expect an exchange of 'something' for a free stay. After all, who would want to let people stay for free? Stay away from Couchsurfing. You can try AirBNB if you want to get local experience and save on accommodation. Kae Vinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15353313394466539803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136641266503367402.post-7506004304430972182015-04-21T01:00:35.514+08:002015-04-21T01:00:35.514+08:00I think you should ask google to remove your pictu...I think you should ask google to remove your pictures.<br />BTW, next time you go to Italy just send me a message, I have many RELIABLE friends that can host you...even in Rome :-)<br /><br />I'm glad nothing serious happened, but girls, be careful out there... the world is full of assholes.<br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07029690424601762240noreply@blogger.com